Hey babes – you may remember that within my last wedding planning update post that I mentioned I would share again in the summer, and we’re well into summer & lots of wedding-related deliveries have been arriving (see some pictured below), but I thought I’d first give an overview of some the wedding traditions we’re skipping —
I thought this would be a relatable post for some of my fellow brides (or even future bride-to-be’s) bc I’ll be honest, everyone has an opinion when you share on a decision for something that is out of the ordinary lol.
Take a read and leave me a comment below if you can relate or have wedding traditions you’re glad you didn’t do at your wedding (or did), x.
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To start, I have been enforcing a strict no speeches rule for the wedding lol. Literally everyone has had something to say about this – friends/family who want to speak (& joke they’re going to grab the mic when I go pee), other people who feel the need to express to us how they’re necessary, and even the venue when we’ve discussed flow for the evening. But guess what? I don’t care 🙂 I am personally of the mindset that very few people actually have the gift of composing their thoughts succinctly and delivering them just as well, and while I do have some friends I think would kill it, I’m not about to play favourites or get into that mess, so it’s not happening. I have sat through countless weddings where people bawl their eyes out at the mic or talk about completely irrelevant topics and it’s just not my thing. Ryan is fine with it, and we will say a few words to thank everyone, but that’s how it be folks.
On that same note, I will not be tossing my bouquet… mainly because that thing is hella expensive and I don’t want to smash a beautiful arrangement on the floor, and also because again, I have witnessed far too many instances where girls literally throw themselves to the ground and I’m not about it at our event lol. Keepin’ it classy.
Next one of the biggest pieces of feedback I’ve received when I’ve shared that my bridesmaids will be wearing white (spoiler alert eeep!!) is “what?! but you’re the bride!!”. Thanks for that reminder y’all lol, I’m aware. And that will not be confused. It’s a winter wedding and I LOVE the idea of the girls all in white with me. Think Kimye or Royal wedding vibes… I nearly died of joy when all my girls tried on their dresses and I could not be happier with the decision. I will also not be in stark full white, so that’s that lol (spoiler x2). However, please don’t be an a-hole guest and show up in white if you’re not one of my bridesangels lol.
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It’s also looking like Ryan and I will not be following the wedding traditions of exchanging written vows… this is actually a part of weddings that I love and really want to do, but if you know me personally you know I can barely keep myself composed during a sad commercial and I honestly don’t think I’ll be able to make it through lol. When we got engaged, I literally heave cried and I just really want to be happy and laughing that whole day and feeling my best.
Lastly, you may have noticed that I have not shared on any details surrounding engagement parties, bridal showers, stags, etc. and that’s because neither myself or Ryan are doing any of those wedding traditions — except for our bachelor and bachelorette trips. Nothing at all against those who do, but we both just feel like it’s overkill and don’t feel comfortable asking people for so much of their time (& money) throughout the year leading up – especially because we already live together and truly don’t need anything or want to put anyone out. There have been a few people on my side who it seems desperately wanted to throw me a shower lol, and while I appreciate it sooo much, I feel good that I didn’t let them pressure me into something that really doesn’t feel like my style. On the flip side, others have felt the need to justify their reasoning for doing all of those other events when we say we’re not doing it, and it’s awkward lol. I’m absolutely not saying our way is right compared to someone else’s, I truly just think it’s a personal choice for each couple to determine for themselves.
So overall, my advice to anyone reading this, is like most important things in your life, stick to your guns on what things YOU truly want for your wedding day, and don’t let anyone else’s opinions (or outdated traditions, or what most people are doing) influence you to do something that doesn’t feel completely right for you and your partner.
Do you agree? Hit me with any q’s and stay tuned with a more fulsome planning update soon! x